We are so sorry you're having such a struggle with your partner right now. We are sending our healing thoughts and strength to you both!
Two things we think are important to remember: One, although it is really crappy for no one to believe something that your partner remembers and knows is the truth, it is STILL the truth whether anyone else believes it or not. Truth is not dependent upon belief!!! Two, it is okay to feel angry, even murderous, it's what you do with the feelings that may or may not be okay. It's okay to feel depressed, even suicidal, it's the actions you take as a result which may or may not be okay.
We're sure it means more than you know that you stand by and support and believe your partner no matter what. It is the very best thing you can do for her. Take care of you too, you are being very strong. ~Gretta