I am now going through my third separation. This is my first marriage. Emotionally, sometimes I feel like I still love her and would take her back. Intellectually, I must be a complete idiot if I even entertain the idea. That is because my wife has manipulated things and seems to typically criticize what I'm doing. On the other hand, she has seemed uncapable of showing affection. When I've needed her support, she usually either doesn't know how, isn't capable of empathy and compassion. I know I'm not perfect. My struggles have hurt our soon to be over marriage as have hers. We both suffer from depression. However, even with the knowledge she does, she can't even empathize with depression. She has this, "get over it" attitude. She becomes furious whenever she concludes I'm avoiding a social situation. It's just not right. I mean, it's like me getting mad at her for not doing more physical things around the house because of her back and knee pain. I have tried so hard to be supportive and help her in any way. I almost think that in some way, by being mr. nice guy, women get bored of me. She is like two different people. One is reasonable, loving, and supportive like when we first married. The other is as warm as absolute zero "degrees".

Conversely, I'm not easy to live with either. I'm sure I've taken her for granted. It's just hard when you are being romantic and she gets irritated about you being romantic. I can see why she gets frustrated with the fact that my ADD causes me to forget things, procrastinate, and sometimes not be able to stay focussed on listenning to her. I can see why that would make her feel unimportant. Maybe I'm just not likeable...or at least maybe it's just better to make a lot of friends and never get married again. Unlike her, I had taken "divorce and "separation" out of my vocabulary. I have changed in so many ways which she has noticed but soon forgets. She says she wants a divorce because "things aren't ever going to change" which sounds like boredom or not being able to see the positive things about our marriage. I now live in what was our apartment. She has moved in with her mom. I feel like such a fool for believing that a marriage for me would last. It seems like all institutions including marriage are just falling apart.

Anyway, thanks to anybody who took the time to read this.