ShadowWraith.....When a person loves you...they are supportive,that even applies to being very gentle with the get over it part.There isn't a get over it button to press.We get through.We find ways to cope more effectively....and when a person loves you they can tell you some clear truths in a manner that supports and encourages positive growth.Criticizing your romantic efforts is a very deep sting.I can't see where that can come from a loving stance.If a person or lover per se is dissatisfied with that aspect...it can be communicated in a gentle even fun way.That's loving.If you criticize a mans romantic efforts ...wow...I just think that's cruel.Romance improves via communication...and trust.Being social....well that's a hard one.I have friends who are and those who aren't .It has never crossed my mind to ***** about it lol...You ARE likable.One person does not define your value among the masses of all other people.I find you likable for the following reasons...(and based only on your post).One....you are introspective.two,you weigh and care for whether her feelings are warranted or not.The entire thing may boil down to being mismatched ...only one person giving a sh;;...lack of the ability to empathically concern herself with your personal struggles...ect.I dont discount that she may have warranted feelings and opinions.But lets face it....If she were a kind hearted person...would she not tell you in a constructive manner and not tear your confidence to shreds?...Sorry my aunt use to be emotionally abusive to uncle and sons g.f was to him.I hate women that tear a mans ego to shreds.You catch bees with honey lol....~WOolf~