OK. that makes a lot of sense. I think I surprised a lot of mine, but they were often not real talkers anyway. Kind of silent doers, do it was hard to tell. Good going though. Give the silent one a little time. Let her know in other ways that you are sorry, and with a bit of respect to her feelings, she might be more receptive when she sees it wasn't meant to hurt.
(You know, I hear chuckling in my head when I write this. One of the "guys" I think is remembering)