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Originally Posted by Emotionally Dead
I will tell you one thing, being with someone for a long time and trying to build up their confidence or help them through their troubles is not the way to go, though it is very thoughtful.
I was with a girl for two years and during that process the only thing that happened was I raised her self confidence and she lowered mine. So it's not a good thing for you. Now one thing you have to realize is to not be selfish in this situation. After all, this is your decision and you have to play it out. You can't just sit there and try to make him dislike you enough to break up with you because that is just wrong and is very selfish. It's your decision and although it is probably the right decision, don't back down from it. When you feel it's time you'll know and when that time comes tell him peacefully and calmly and tell him face to face. Although you should let him know that even though it's not working at this time it doesn't mean it never will. He may get better with his problems and you better with yours and some time it might actually work out. Right now you just need to have a break and some time away from him, get you some therapy and go from there. Best of luck.
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Thanks for the input E.D. i would not want to make my bf not like me in order to get him to dump me as you implied. I only meant i want him to dump me if he doesnt think its working out for him. i dont want to create more probs than there needs i just need to think of a solution. me and my bf talked b4 about what would happen if we split. he said he doesnt want to come back to me but id keep the door open 4 possibilities so id have no choice but to let him go because thats what he wants and id respect that and he also wouldnt want 2 be friends either cuz he said he doesnt want to see me with a new guy.It felt so weird 2 have him say all that to me but thats life it hurt but he was not tryin 2 b hurtful just honest. if i really end up leaving him first i have 2 try 2 make my self emotionally detached from him which i dont know how i can even go about do that? i love him deeplyi feel i cant do that and i will always love him even if im with someone elsereal love doesnt just vanish