i have an old rule: follow your nose. it just seems to me that when there is something i need to be doing it presents itself to me. the real trick is in noticing that something is being offered. it requires that we lay down our demands of life and accept what's offered. the smallest things can lead to the biggest steps; allow for the possiblity that the universe is a friendly place, always trying to be helpful, even if that involves pain (which is often a measure of growth).