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Originally Posted by Eloise42
My boyfriend has cluster PTSD and while we don't think he technically has DID there are occasional alternates.
One of them is a little kid who is completely adorable and awesome and loves me so his "visits" I don't mind at all.
The other who we just call "the Asshole" seems to be nothing but a combat mechanism who shows up for a good reason but then doesn't go away. Last time he was triggered by a BAD interaction with a therapist and stuck around for days. My boyfriend isn't terribly thrilled with this character either.
We've already decided to suspend his driving privileges (long story, GOOD REASON) which I'm not looking forward to. Besides that our strategy for trying to contain him next time is to maybe pacify him with some alcohol and hope he retreats to my boyfriend's "fortress of solitude" upstairs. We're hoping that if he gets to be somewhat naughty he will stay put.
My boyfriend blacks out most of what this guy does, but this guy thinks he IS my boyfriend which is frustrating. Should I not engage and somewhat ignore him until either the little kid or my boyfriend is back?
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My partner was reading my posts here and thought of something I didnt. One time there was a combative alter who refused to co operate and let go of control because my partner was going through some issues and my alter thought they needed to be in control because of those issues my partner had. Trying to protect me from my partners issues.
something to think about - I went to your past posts and read them, you have had many ups and downs, mania, anxiety, med problems the works. maybe his combative alter is feeding off of your problems and perceives your problems being some sort of danger to your boyfriend.
The solution to this is you continue to work with your treatment people to get your own problems under control. the alter sees you doing this and will eventually see your mental problems are not a threat to your boyfriends well being and safety.
you might also think about having a few therapy sessions with you, your boyfriend and your treatment people to talk about how your boyfriend and alters can feel safe when you are in crisis or having problems associated with your mental disorders. This helped me, my system and my partner a lot. we were able to map out plans for what to do when my partners problems arose so that me and my system felt safe during those times. solved the problem of my alters feeding off of my partners issues permanently.
