Hi, Missquestions, I'm so sorry you are having a difficult time now with your relationship. I take it your father coming back didn't help resolve anything in your young life as a teenager? Have you had a good talk to him about his leaving and coming back, gotten an adult view of what was going on? I found that talking to my stepmother about her childhood and general background helped me with issues I had with her while I was growing up. It didn't change anything but did make me feel better and less separated from her in feeling. I learned we were a lot alike which is part of why we treated each other so badly. But knowing some of her difficulties made her more "human" and I felt less alone. Maybe talking to your father would help you?