BeenThere2: Thanks so much for your post. I am glad to see that you understand that this was not "love" but rather you being used when in a very vulnerable position. As I posted earlier, I am in involved in a lawsuit, and it has ripped open a very ugly scab. Just when I think I'm about to heal the ex-T comes up with more outright lies and it just makes me sick. Some days I'm glad I'm suing but others I just want this all to end.