The Stages of a Relationship:

All you have to do is google this and you can find unlimited writings on this topic. The trick is...to figure out if your marriage is in a slump, if you are moving onto the next stage, or if you really married the wrong person. (which sometimes does happen) but say you do leave and start off with another man at some point, in 10 years or so you might find yourself about in the same place again only with more complications like step-kids and what-not.

http://gcuc.ncf.ca/relate5.html

http://ezinearticles.com/?5-Stages-o...hips&id=528343

http://www.relationship-institute.co...article_ID=153

http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/howto/stages.asp

http://www.buzzle.com/articles/stage...ationship.html

I'm not saying this is what is happening with you but to a large degree I have to agree with JustAPixie in saying " I still think love is a choice, I don't believe in soulmates."

After being with the same man for 23 years I felt I could not bear to live another day with him. I left....actually dated him about a year later only to leave him again for someone else. Strangely, after about 10 years into this new relationship I found myself behaving very much same way I did in my marriage and to be honest....I didn't like that person whom I had become again...didn't like her very much at all.

Fortunately I got a wake-up call. I had to face my own responsibility in BOTH relationships and well....become a nicer person.

Again, I have to reiterate...that was me....not necessarily you, but if you look at the stages of love you may actually find that you are moving into a level of deeper commitment.

One side note....there is no man that will love your children better than their father.

There are a lot of good, great, fantastic men out there. Just imagine if there is someone out there that thinks your husband is that guy for them. Would you really want to loose him to her?

Sorry if this is not in the direction you wanted to go. It's a very complicated topic to say the least. This comment is like only one grain of sand in all the beaches of the world that could be said bout it. Please take this as discussion and not criticism.

Lovingly,