"Cluster PTSD" is the classification my partner identifies with and is more comfortable using.

The last time the problematic alter showed up he drove around town extremely drunk, gave a stranger prostitute a ride who ended up throwing a bottle at his head and wound up "trapped in a brothel" and that's just what the alter told me about. So for these and other reasons we both have serious concerns about his physical safety.

We are trying to brainstorm preventative measures to keep him safe, future attempts to keep the alter in the house was my partner's idea he asked for my help with. In addition to the bedroom we share he has a room that is completely his so he has a safe retreat place which was my idea.

We came up with another name for "The Asshole" because I have always had a personal rule against name calling but it resembles his real name so I left it out. Thanks to over 25 years of cognitive therapy the alters show up a lot less often and stick around for a LOT less time.

I did ask the alter if he would go to therapy with me and he shot it down.

I'm sorry if I offended anyone. In the Bipolar forum I belong to it is acceptable for concerned friends and family members to post their frustrations and questions and it is often encouraged.

As far as "accepting" this alter I don't know if I can completely do that. He is emotionally abusive and he hurts both of us. Five years ago he was borderline physically abusive so there has been improvement there. I'm not sure he is an entirely a part of who my boyfriend is. I think he is a combination of my boyfriend and one of his former abusers.