The intelligence of my son and his girlfriend who are both IVY league caliber students never ceases to amaze me. So I leave my lights on at a client's home and have to leave my car there and catch a lift from hubby and daughter. I had noticed today a towel on the office chair by the computer and easn't really concerned, thought someone showered and threw a towell there. My daughter with OCD is sitting at the computer and thinks the towel is uncomfortable so she takes it off and notices a strong ickky smell. Son's girlfriend's kitten has been peeing since she brought home old cat. She pees and poos everywhere and some dimwit puts a towell over cat pee? So hubby just took apart this brand new chair and we separated the foam so we could soak it in vinegar and put the cover in the wash. My husband says he wants to put the chair in their room. I said leave it alone, it's not worth the stress and I have a feeling my son is overwhelmed taking care of this girlfriend with untreated mental illness.

I keep telling her to sched a Pdoc and she always has an excuse.

Okay, so yesterday I came home and it was 40-45 degrees outside. I noticed when I came in that the house felt warm so I checked and the furnace was set at 68. Then a few minutes later I felt a draft in the hall way and went into the bathroom where the window was wide open!!!! Well, that made me a bit unhappy. I went upstairs later and in my son's room the window was wide open and there was rain everywhere including stereo and computers.

My spouse heard the girlfriend crying last night. He thought it was about my leaving notes about the windows being open. The notes were witty and sarcastic.

I guess I just want to vent because I am putting up with this. I am letting it happen and I am not doing anything to make it change, Seems that when I do ask something that it makes it worse. Like they will see again mommy did the dishes and chores and the chair is dismantled and they will feel guilty and do a day of cleaning and cooking.

I guess I am in the choose your battles place right now. They certainly are not going to listen to anything I have to say. I worked at home the first part of the day and they didn't get up until 11:00. I heard my son scolding his puppy for pottying on the floor. They hadn't let the poor dog out! Then my son comes into my bathroom with a disposable cup stuffed with t.p. and puts it in my trash can. I casually check and see that it is the dog's poo. I flush it down the toilet and ask son to empty the garbage from the bath. I find it later downstairs next to the cellar door.

In all actuality I have had more peace with this stuff because I am choosing to accept it and see it and not let it get to me too much. You have to admit it makes for facinating reading on the young adult mind.

My friends have a 20 year old daughter. She rescued a Kitten off the road though dad is very allergic. She keeps the cat in her bedroom with the door closed at all times. The cat came into heat and busted out through the screen. I explained that as soon as the heat ended she needed to get cat to vet for spaying. She didn't. Has three kittens. Now she thinks she wants to keep a kitten. She is never home, works all day and is with boyfriend all night. Cat is fed and watered and that is it. Dad's allergies are very severe. I have seen him stuff up and close up so quick it's amazing. Her mom asked her to do the dishes the other day and she said;"why, I don't eat here"? Okay, so we raise these selfish little devils. Me me me. How come my youngest has never been through this? She seems responsible and aware and does what is asked of her. Okay, sorry, long post. I am flabbergasted!