I am hopeful I did not overstep or offend.

One thing my guy said to me when we were trying to get past our problems was that I acted like I didn't even like him. I was shocked....but then I took a hard look at my behavior. Instead of being angry all the time over gads of little things I try to concentrate on what is important. Thinking of us not being together was a lot worse than crumbs on the counter....but if something is important to me I try to "inform" him and he welcomes the info. I tell him in plain English what I need. He's not a mind reader. Me figuring "if he loves me he will figure it out" does not work.

If your husband doesn't spend a lot of time with you I wonder if you are available to him? Is he leaving you alone because he thinks you are busy with the kids? He might think he is doing you a favor and giving you space. For the longest time I was horribly hurt because my guy didn't get up and welcome me when I got home. I figured I'd might as well stay at work.....until I told him how it made me feel. Not in an accusatory way...but just simply explained. He did great with the information!! When he comes in the house he likes to go through his stuff and get organized first while things are fresh in his mind. He was giving me what he thought everybody liked.

The best I can give my guy is to treat him like the dear friend he is....with kindness and respectful communication. The fact that we are partners doesn't mean he deserves any less.

I wish you the very best, truly.