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Originally Posted by treehouse
I want to go there and work hard and be honest and be vulnerable and let you see the real me and, despite everything, be the one you love the most.
You say "you have to find a way to get these needs met outside of therapy" or whatever. But that's just it. I CAN'T, because no one will ever know me the way that you know me. Everyone's love will always have "but they don't know the REAL me" attached to it.
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Would it help to think about it in this way: you opened up to T completely, and now he can see the "real" you, and he still loves you. This means, that it IS possible for people to love you if they know the real you. Your T proved that it is possible. So when it comes to your other relationships, can you give people the benefit of the doubt and think: this person loves me, but they don't know me entirely. However, T showed me that I am loveable, and even when someone knows everything about me, they will still love me for who I am. So, this other person in my life would also keep loving me if they knew the whole story. There were people in my past who didn't love me, that's true. BUT, this is the present now and most people are different. T showed me that there IS genuine love and acceptance out there, and I will therefore assume that this is true, and that I am loveable for who I am.