My wife and I are in marital counseling. I am having a hard time because her therapeutic approach is very aggressive. We have seen her five times, and she is coming at us with both guns blazing. I like it because I am a get down to business kind of guy, but at the same time no rapport has been established.

I always leave feeling worse about myself, like I am defective. I have an individual T for issues going back to childhood (abuse, physical and sexual) and the marriage counselor is telling me things that my individual T hasn't brought up. Telling me I act like a victim, and in a roundabout way blamed me for my wifes affair. I am now upset that my individual T has noticed this about me and has withheld saying anything to me.

Todays session was really hard. I had to discuss my childhood, and the abuse by my mom and dad, and it was very emotional. Its good because its going to force my to face my past and grow, but the process is hard. How do you get past seeing yourself as this screwed up individual? either way I welcome this new journey I am on..just needed to vent.