Damn, I feel your pain. My opinion is that as painful as therapy is, and can be, it is much better than the alternative. The alternative is staying stuck, living with poor coping skills, and ineffective behavior.

We are not BAD, we are living life with the cards we were dealt as kids, how we viewed our parents interacting, and what they taught us. I wish I could take the shame away, its not yours to hold. I wish you well.