Every time I've asked my T if it's okay to talk about anything, she says "absolutely" or "totally" or something like that. She repeatedly says she is not going to judge me. When I asked at my last session if anything was TMI, she said "no, nothing is".

Of course someone could say that and you wouldn't believe him or her. It's the way trust builds up in the relationship that makes you believe your T when she says it's all right to say anything. She makes me feel safe because, in IFS therapy, the T is always asking you how your part feels, and how you feel toward it. Then you are telling your parts how grateful you are to them for being there. There's a built-in safety zone, sort of.

Ts are trained how to deal with hearing all sorts of stuff and they hear it every day. Once I apologized to my T for talking about death, and she said "I do this all day long." I didn't like her answer at the time, but it is true that Ts hear painful stuff all the time and they know how to make us feel safe when telling it.