Thanks Sunrise for the response, and you too Elana05. My wife was upset after our first session because the T told her that her dad abandoned her and didnt protect her from her emotionally distant mom. My wife didnt feel that way and the T kept saying, dont you see how he wasnt there for you? true or not, I thought it was too soon to say that to her.

I did share with the T how I feel, and stood up to her a couple times. I am one for directives, but I dont agree with her telling us how to live our lives. She told us to quit drinking soda because everytime we did we were "putting our lips on the exhaust pipe of our car." In our last session I said that I felt like she was pointing out all my flaws and not really saying anything to my wife and that is when she said I had a chip on my shoulder and act like a victim.

I said I am just sharing how I feel and then she repeated herself and then I got very defensive. I have to meditate for 10m before every session so that I dont go in with my defenses up. I just dont want to quit because its uncomfortable, but she is really harsh at times. I now dont feel safe really sharing my true feelings because I will be told I am being a victim. I dont want to act like a victim, I didnt think I was, I own my behavior and dont place the blame on anyone else. IDK..will have to see how the next sessions goes.