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Old Nov 06, 2010, 07:45 AM
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((((Jexa))))

Well, you are doing the right thing by just opening up and giving this change a chance. Sometimes, it just doesn't work out. That is the reality of change - not all change is good (contrary to what some people try to tell me at times).

But there are times when change brings something much better. It comes as a surprise! For example, I know you know all the change in my life right now - not just T, but at work they have TONS of change, and stuff in my family with my brother and his kids, and last weekend my hairdresser walked off the job the day before my apt! So the salon asked me if I wanted to try this other lady. I didn't know her at all, and I was already triggered by all the other changes, so I was not happy about it at all. ugggg. But I said "Ok" and I told her to just do whatever she wanted to do. I surrendered to the change and came out looking different. I wasn't sure what to think of it - but I really didn't care because of the rest of the stuff in my life. She could have given me a bowl cut and I wouldn't have cared because I was just that wounded from all the change.

Well, this week at work I have had more compliments on my hair than I ever got in my entire life!!! My S/O also got her hair cut by the same lady and it is the best cut she ever had!

Bottom line is just that there are times when change ends up working out for the best. That doesn't make it any easier. But we don't know how it will turn out if we lock ourselves down inside. The only way we find out is by saying "Ok. Do what you want." Then sit back and see how it turns out. If we don't like what we start to see after a bit of time, we have the freedom to make another change.

BIG BIG hugs to you!!