I feel anxious and scared. There is no one I can talk to about this, so I went on line and found this forum.
I have had a dear friend for 17 years. Initially we were a couple but after 3 years broke it off and have remained dear friends ever since. We own a home together and share dogs. I live downstairs he lives up stairs. So there is some history...
On monday afete we celebrated his 60th b-day, he decided that from now on he wants nothing from me. He was mad because I spent money on him and his family on his birthday. (he asked me not to, I got swept up in making his family happy), He would have preferred I help with the house or Pay down our second, or help with a myriad of things he says he always needs help with. In his mind I never pull my weight. So from this point forward, he will pay for everything, wants no money from me for the house, for the second, even for my own car insurance, and will not discuss anything with me that relates to us being "partners".

I believe there are things I do to pull my weight, but they are not the things he believes are important. I am devestated.. How do Ilive with some one who is done with me? He says we can be "friends", but he will never trust me or depend on me again. He says to me not to buy him food, feed him, give him money for anything. If it weren't for our dogs we would be having no contact at all right now.

My biggest dilemma is I am a single woman and this home that I own part of is my retirement. (it is worth a lot. of money ) Leaving is not an option right now. And by the way he still wants me to be part owner of the house he will just refuse any money to fix it up or to pay down our second. I am still unclear about the mortage.
I needed a place to vent. I do not see how anyone could possibly solve this for me, but a place to get it out helps. At the moment he can not stand the sight of me, but in time he says the anger will pass, but that he is done. I know I have choices and free will. I am not a weak woman but this has come out of left field and I was totally unprepared for it. The day before this all went down he bought me flowers thanking him for his birthday. I have culpability but man, I never saw this coming. Thanks for listening