That makes sense to me, ECHOES.

My T has been in training for a couple of years for a certain type of couples therapy. I ask him about it sometimes, and he says that he has a hard time with it, because he "hears his own voice" so much (there is a lot of coaching). When he said that, it did make me think about T's presence in the room, and in my therapy.

I do know that when I am telling something difficult, T gets very very very very still. I'm not even sure he's breathing - it's like he disappears. I think that does give me the space to do the work I need to do.

As for needing the silences...it's okay to ask for what you need without feeling guilty. You are paying T to help you, and silence is something that you need sometimes.

Like everything else in therapy, I'm sure there is a lot of value in exploring this. But wouldn't it be nice sometimes to not have everything be something to explore?!