sometimes I may say something perhaps like yesterday when talking about feeling alive and I said out aloud, what does that mean and then silence so I turn to T and say, well what does it mean? and T says, you wish me to answer that? sometimes she does automatically, sometimes she waits, gives me space, sometimes I want her to explain everything, sometimes like a session last week she perhaps used to many words which she admitted too, but most times goldliocks gets it just right, not to cold, not to hot, but just right