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Perna, what you wrote reminded me of something I read a couple of years ago about the benefits of staying with a T whose personality or style takes you way out of your comfort zone. I don't remember where I read it but it made so much sense to me because working with a T whose personality "feels right" doesn't teach us how to become more comfortable with people whose personalities make us uncomfortable. My current T is not someone I would have stayed with if circumstances had been different at the time when I first began working with him because I didn't believe I could ever feel close to him due to our very different styles of relating. But now I'm so glad I stayed because that's actually what I needed to break old patterns of only developing relationships with people who made me feel comfortable right away. It opened doors to a whole new world of people I would have otherwise found to be difficult if not impossible to relate to.
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