dogbliss,
You wrote,[...we own a home together... he wants no money...will not discuss...being partners....leaving is not an option....unclear about the mortgage...how anyone could ..solve this for me....].
I could offer you support from my perspective as I have much experiance in what you are describing. if you would like for me to offer you support, could you clarify the following?
A. Is the mortgage in "tenants in common"?
1. call the mortgage company and they will give you all the infomation about the mortgage.
2. call the recorder's office at the court house in your city and ask for a copy of the deed. You can go there and pay a few dollars for a copy or they can fax it to you with a consent letter from you.
3. See how the deed is recorded.
B. After you know the above, you can be advised of your rights by an attorny concerning the house that you both own.
Lou