I have to say I have been there, at thanksgiving my stepmother said
somethings that made me angry, instead of saying anything though I
held it in but it showed in my face and body language.... I have been
told by others I have the the right to say what I think and that I don't need
them to mother me, but to support me.... and that what they say usually
sounds more like a put down. and that doesn't help me at all considering
how unsure of myself I really am. It drags me down, but it drags me
farther down because I won't speak up for myself, how do I do this
without hurting them or me.... not to mention I am afraid I will say the
wrong thing and just make things worse....
Bear at least you were brave enough to say something.

Bevers