Ok this is my first post and i need help, its hard to no where to start...
Me and my wife are going through a very tuff time, we seem not to be able to communicate any more. She tells me its my fault and i tell her its her's.i'm reading a book on relationships at the moment and it's clear its down to both of us.
The problem is my wifes controlling, watching what she wants on tv, telling me were we are going at the weekend etc, most of the time this is ok but recently she had her sister staying from sa...i over heard them talking about me and putting me down, i have a weight problem and i'm doing the best i can to keep my weight in check but my wife find this funny. I can give has good as i get but recently my wife has become lazy, i work full time doing a 8:00 till 8:00 job and my wife works part time, i'm still expected to cook for the kids, wash and iron my of clothing etc, but she calls me when i don't do things for myself, most tmes when i come home from work she either asleep on the couch or busy watchin tv and we can't talk till her programmes finish.
We are currently going through a no talking or communicating part of the agrument, she'll not talk to me now for 3/4 or 5 weeks, than it will be up to me to apologies and make up, we have been together for 18 years and in all that time she has never said sorry for anything she has either said or done.
I have recently admited that i'm a bully. I answer her back and make slight comments that put her down, i'm trying to stop the way i feel but i think its sometimes a result of the way things are. I have never and would never hit her, i'm better then that but its coming across has 1 sided relationship.
She has recently told me that she leaving taking all the money, and kids and that i what see her again again a very unfar statment. Please give any advise.