Crystal, I wish I could suggest something.

Maybe you just need some space, some time? Can you make quiet space for yourselves? What about exercise? Is that possible? I know it sometimes helps me. I'd go and swim now if I could, but I tried earlier and am just too physically exhausted as well as emotionally fragile.

Anger is scary. Can you find a way that Amber can express herself in a safe way? What about making some angry pictures or poems?

Failing that, can you distract yourelves some way? Or block it out (sleeping tablets or alcohol are my last ditch resorts) to give yourself space?

Be safe.

Caroline