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lynn09 · Nov 06, 2010, 09:50 PM

I'm so sorry you are having such a rough go of it, thelostmother020507! I understand your present perspective and feelings; however, depression is only allowing you to see one side of the story.

What any child needs and deserves more than anything else is to be loved, cherished, and wanted, and to be parented by someone who can teach them how to survive the realities of life. Of course you want her to have advantages that you did not - advantages that most children in this country do not have. But, just because someone is "rich" and can provide such advantages, that doesn't necessarily mean that they are capable of loving your child more than you are. As much as any loving parent wants to shield their children from the harsh realities of life, it's much more important for children to learn how to survive and flourish despite their harsh circumstances.

Without doubt, your present situation is a serious set-back for you and your daughter - but there are options and assistance available to help you both. There are emergency social services and assistance that you qualify for, and you need to get in touch with them immediately. I don't know where you live, but many cities in the US have a "411" system set up - you dial "411" and your entire situation is assessed and you are put in contact with various agencies to help you find housing, food, employment, financial assistance, daycare, etc. Also, if you are in the US you can look in the telephone book under State Government to find the telephone numbers for Health & Human Services - or search for assistance on the internet.

If you need help getting in touch with the agencies where you live, PM me and I will help you get that information. Don't throw in the towel yet - you've got plenty of years ahead of you to make up ground. lynn09