I've seen therapists over sex issues for years. Most focused on keeping me from putting myself in positions to be revictimized; when I interact with guys, things HAPPEN to me. If I'm alone with any guy long enough, he WILL come on to me, I WILL shut down, and he WILL have sex with me. For example, I have an ex who was really upset after a sex incident where I cried the whole way through, and he was shook up about how he never thought he was capable of something like that.... and he's not the only one. These are guys who's never thought of doing stuff like this to anyone--and then they met me. So in a sense, I guess I have a right to think about all guys in terms of sexuality, because they are all thinking about getting with me. I know that must make me the most conceited person ever, but that's the thought process....