He thinks I should forgive my mother. He says that he feels sorry for her and she might be too proud to apologize to me. I've told him countless times, she is not like that. She isn't.. normal. She was never a mother who really cared about her children, what she didn't wasn't an accident. He lives in a home where he has a loving mother, and it's his dad who he has problems with, and I thought if anything, when it came up and he asked me about it, he could relate his father with my mother.. but.. he cannot. He can't grasp that not all mothers are kind and loving. To him, two and two don't go together.. and I don't expect it to make sense to him or for him to understand, but when the topic comes around to how I should feel sorry or I should be the bigger person and forgive her.. it's like.. how could you ask me to do that?

It puts a lot of distance between us, and I don't want that to happen. He's a good friend of mine, who is very positive and kind.. but his optimism doesn't work with the relationship I have with her.