Well from your responses I know its not an easy job taking care of myself and my parents. I have one other sibbling and they are basically told what I can't do and they step , which is good in a way but then Im left managing them too LOL. I do have my dad in some classes and parents have 2 hours a week outside help. They are of the age group that don't like outsiders coming in, and i keep saying you should use their help to a max. I am sorry to vent, just felt so low when i first posted. You don't know how much you guys continue to help me, with loves Lorna