Hi jenkins,

This sounds really critical and not helpful... Sure, soda is not that good for us but - geez it's a legal substance. This kind of statement just seems totally out of place! I know I would feel VERY defensive at this. Is she saying she is perfect and has no bad habits? Grrr. Sorry. Please keep in mind this is just my opinion... But for something as intense marriage counselling I just think you both deserve someone much more sensitive and not so critical. It is hard enough to bring up these very difficult topics. It sounds to me like it might be (more helpful?) to have someone who is there to fight for the both of you -- not against you with criticisms or pushing you (or your wife) into areas that you don't feel ready to delve into yet... This alone sounds traumatic...