Last night I broke up with my live in boyfriend of 11 months. I didn't intend it to go that way. I had went home to see my family and to get away from everything for the weekend thinking that i was going to have a clear mind when I came back to talk to him. We have been arguing a lot and basically hurting each other over and over again. We've gone to two therapy sessions but I dont believe it was helping in any way or maybe we were just on the verge of breaking up any way. I asked him last night if he had any hope and if he still wants to try. He told me no, so with that being said I decided to end the relationship basically I felt like I was doing him a favor.

We were very different we didn't have a lot in common but maybe a few things. His views on things were very different from mine. He is very uptight and I am really laid back. My culture is Chinese and I think he was getting a bit more uptight with my family every time i talked about them. And maybe he was not able to accept them.

What really did it for me:
My father left us when I was younger, then he reappeared into my life not too long ago. I decided to forgive him because he was really trying. Recently my father had came to visit and stayed with use for a few days before heading back to Hong Kong. He didn't call which was odd to me and I was a bit hurt but I am used to it. My boyfriend tells me that he is not welcomed in our home anymore and that he feels my father is a stranger and does not want anything to do with him. He started talking about that my father might be with the secret services and that he is a spy. I thought that was just plain silly and i didn't think he was serious but he was. The truth is , I was just hurt by what he said and he said he has said other things about my family before that has hurt me. I am not sure if I want to be with someone that will have issues with my family. He seems to have a lot of issues with a lot of things and I am realizing that we are just too different to be together. I am not as hurt and torn as I thought I would be he was the one that ws having a hard time. I am just trying to figure out if I had made the right decision of leaving him and hoping I'll find someone again.

Just how do you know if a person is the right one? Because I pretty sure that he was the one.