Hmmm... I would say that you were a friend of mine that I just sent a link to this site but I know the name they would use so you're not them! Oh, and they do use the diagnosis. My goodness you have a lot in common. You are not alone.
For me, and my friend when they show up healing is about being happy and functional. She did some integration with some parts. She is now down to a core few and they all work together and do not feel a need to integrate any further. They meet together and come up with stratigies to use her system/parts in ways that fully maximize capability. It is truly elegant 96% of the time. There are the occasional squabbles and parts going MIA for a while but all in all it works.

I on the other hand still have a mixed bag, most of whom are not talking to me right now. Ahh how I love being out and clueless.

Please note: Many of us have different terms we use to talk about our multiplicity. I have used my terminology in this post not my friends. It is important to me not to "out" them and to allow them to make their own introductions as they choose. I leave it up to my friend to decide if they wish to out themselves in this post or not (I am not particularly well "disguised" for those that support me). If they chose not to I am confident that you two will stumble upon eachother and hit it off rather well.