In answer to your question. The rules state that after 2 years (not seeing the therapist) there is a possibility of a personal relationship...depending on certain factors.. . You DO need to be honest and upfront with her though. I am an undergraduate in psychology,and moderator of an abused survivors' group. I am sure there are many people who see their therapist because they have feelings for them. A client can feel or behave anyway they want in therapy, but it is the therapist's obligation to behave professionally...as i am sure you know