Ohhh Peaches......

when I saw this thread & noticed who had initiated it, there was a bump as my radar turned itself on.

As I read, the beeping started getting louder, and when I came to this >> Two of these people i had problems with, and they are now inviting me back into their lives, and my t and my h don't want me to. My h even says...<< the alarm bells started ringing.

This isn't about your T's opinoion. Your T is trying to warn you. And the one other person on this earth who knows you as intimately as T, or right after her, thinks the same.

And... of the two people you referred to, if one of them is the same one you went through the wringer about within the last 12 months, I think you know the answer to this.
Please don't play with fire, my friend.