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Originally Posted by mgfour
Thank you all for your replys! I know exactly why I am an addict. All of the above suggested, mania, a high when the puchase is made (a low when I need to return some), Guilt, shame, and on and on. I've had a wonderful therapist for years. The only thing she can't really have success with me is my hatred of myself. Borderline. There is something out there called Lifetime Integrated Therapy. It is very intense and takes a long time, but she is trained and thinks highly of it. We'll give it a try soon. In the meantime Low self esteem, dislike of oneself or in my case, actual self loathing are at the bottom of it and therefore I'm sick of myself. Any thoughts on this?
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ok, i'll try.
why do u have low self esteem?
why do u dislike yourself? self loathing? sick of yourself? can u describe what makes you feel these ways about self? do you have
actual proof of those ideations?
in my own quest for understanding myself i absorbed what my family felt that i was. thus, i had a lot of "bad tapes" running in the background regarding myself that weren't
truth
. in therapy i learned how to look at who i thought i was, be that, and throw out the bad tapes for the most part and replace them with
facts rather than other ppls opinion of me or my own distorted viewpoint. i wasn't such a horrible person afterall.
another term i like is we have
irrational beliefs of ourselves. there's a book out by dr. ellis that explains how to convert irrational thoughts with rational ones anout self. it helped me a lot. example-i'm not a worthwhile person unless everyone likes me. well of course EVERYONE may not like me but does that make me less worthy? why, no.
hope this helps.