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Default Nov 09, 2010 at 10:00 PM
 
hi whataguy,

i agree with far and lynn, and think what they said was both tactful and spot-on. i'll add a few more points in the gentlest way possible..

1) you know that she's run over exactly 55 times, something about this seems off. it seems like you place a lot of importance in this (the fact that you're keeping track), and it seems you're taking it as an indication of something more. a lot of therapists run over, and it's not because they're sending subliminal messages to their clients; they just simply run over.

2) you say that something just "clicked" when you met her, but three of the four reasons why are superficial. they have nothing to do with who she is as a person, and i'd venture to guess that you know relatively little about her. the fourth reason you gave is that you "loved.. how she worked with me on my problem of getting over my ex." this is part of her job, and it's natural that you would like (even love) someone for helping you with something important like this - but i think you're confusing the issue.

3) you say the answer she gave you regarding whether or not you can be friends after therapy is "bogus," what makes you say that? further more, if this is really someone you love and admire, why would you also call them a liar (when you don't get the answer you want to hear)?

4) you say you "think she is flattered (by you choosing her as your mate), but she won't let me know that yet." have you thought of just asking her? there shouldn't be a reason for her not to tell you how she feels, one way or another.

5) you said she seemed "kinda happy" about your gift of flowers. it sounds to me like she was uncomfortable. usually people are plain-and-simple happy when you give them a gift.

to answer your questions:

do i think this can become a friendship in the future? no.

do i think it can turn romantic given enough time? no.

you asked for comments, and those are mine. i hope you can hear this as supportive advice, from someone that's trying to help you see the situation for what it really is.

good luck!
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