BNLsMOM! I won't even say I can relate, because I can't. In reading, it seems it is a pretty common response to the concept of "helping", though. Sorry that probably isn't much help to you atm. So hoping that they will soon be able to realize that your input is totally valuable and necessary in the process(!) I'm assuming that you've pointed this out to them, but perhaps not(???) (I only wonder because it is very hard for me to express what I need just in regular terms, but also because I often don't even know myself!) When someone reads or hears "support", they may think of it one way, while you think of it in another. Probably good to be very specific (it sounds like you have --like the picking up the kids thing) at a moment when that is not the thing you need. Does that make any sense? (Like discussing things at calmer moments as opposed to in the heat of the moment kind of thing? Why yes, I do have a teenager! Lol.) It's nice that they do want to help, but hoping for you that things get more truly helpful as soon as may be...