You know, your not messed up...you are a normal human being who struggles with relationships...i actually think I own up to the fact that I have a victim mentality myself...My T's never told me but, I believe I do. its hard to think that way or hear that from anyone. I hope your situation works out soon and you can make those unhealthy relationships healthier.
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A bird doesn't sing because it has all the answers, it sings because it has a song.
Maya Angelou.
so sing. Jazz, sing. --jazzy123456
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"You're not here merely to make a living. You are here to enable the world to live more amply, with greater vision, and with a finer spirit of hope and achievement. You are here to enrich the world. You impoverish yourself if you forget this errand." (Woodrow Wilson)