I run into the problem that my hubby wants me to excesize, but he also wants me to do more aroundthe house, completely oblivious to the fact that I already spend hours on house work and this is why I don't excersize. HMMMMMM. cause, and effect. I guess they don't do that in the Humanities. He usually disapears out into the forest and doesn't see what i do, so there you go.
Problem is everyone thinks they do more than they do. Right now I am sick, my energy is 0 and I still do the laundry, cook... I have to ask for every extra chore to be done by the guys, and that is a drag. Even when they are willing to do it, they want me to stand there and tell othem how. Again. Do they have a martyr smiley on this thing? they should!
Family centered should be about training the family to take steps to avoid relapses in building up a sustainable system of support for the patient AND a sustainable system of functionen that invlves structure, preditablility, clear communication, and rational schedualing for EVERYBODY in the family. It should not deteriorate into "snitch on the patient". It can feel that way when holding to schedule gets in the way of a mania or a dpression that wants to get going, but even the family can get a slap on the wrist.

It's hard for family to understand how hard it is to work against the urge to isolate or to motivate against depression. Maybe you all need to sit down and you need too ask them to let you explain yourself without them interrupting until you are done, and then give them the same coutesy in turn. Better that than the behing the back business. what do you think? HUGGGSSSS.