I don't have asperger's, but I guess I am hoping that you won't mind a point of view of what I would want to hear if someone inadvertently crossed a boundary with me. The script above is very focused on your needs. I think it is difficult for some people (including myself) to be asked to help and work with someone when they are upset or angry about something that person did. Perhaps more focus on how it would benefit the other person would get a more positive response.When I am upset about something someone has done I like to have that acknowledged. Something like- "It seems that something I have done has upset you and I do not want you to be upset. Is it possible that I crossed some boundary that I was not aware of? Is there anything that I can do to rectify that now and in the future?" I know it sounds like exactly the same thing! However, by making it a question it seems more interested in how the other person reacted.