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Originally Posted by jexa
I agree with SAWE, peaches.. I don't want to make you upset, I know your heart is so big and you just want to forgive, forgive, forgive, and I know you are lonely and seeking friendship, but in the process you get so so hurt  I don't think it's about you choosing a victim mentality, peaches - there's so much blame and negativity in that - "choosing victimhood" - ugh! But I do think that it's hard for you to look honestly at the faults in other people -- you care SO much -- and I think that ends up putting you in that victim role.
Like SAWE said, the two people who care about you the most are telling you this is a bad move. I would listen to them, and steer clear, and protect your sensitive heart. |
Hi Jexa,
I've never had anybody put it in words exactly the way you did. . .that it's hard for me to look honestly at the faults in other people. But maybe it's true. I was raised by a mom who was a super positive thinker to the point that she completely ignored/denied any problems that went on in the family. Even very bad problems. She would just act like she didn't know anything bad was happening. Maybe there is a part of me that fails to see bad behavior or can't label it as such?? So when things feel good again, it's very easy to pretend/forget that anything painful ever happened beforehand. I'm so ready to see the good, and really want to! Thank you for reminding me that i need to protect my heart.
