Thanks for mentioning this point about the money. When my daughter found the wallet, the money was gone. My husband and I discussed how to approach this issue - we all decided not to make the focus on the money. The reason being, the girl would use this as a way out and yes she tried twice to say "I'll just replace the money" with no admission of guilt or wrong doing. When my daughter talked to her last night - she said "it's not the money that's the issue..... it's the 'principle'". So we're not asking for the money back.

I think there are different types of stealers. This girl doesn't really want for anything - she has clothes with tags in her closet, some money in her own account. Her uncle is very rich and gave her $700 designer glasses and a Gucci purse. I think even if a person has possessions they still want more. Her parents are very strict and I think her/sblings lie often, so they won't get in trouble.

I remember once, there was a member of parliment in our government - he was at a jewelery store grand opening, looking at rings. He ended up putting one in his pocket, but he was caught. He had the money to buy the ring, but he just couldn't control the urge to steal.