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purple_fins · Nov 10, 2010, 03:56 PM

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THAT WAS SELF PRESERVATION!! Its part of human nature! Thank God for that! You are very brave. I cannot imagine being in such an experience... Each 1 of us facing danger - especially as a child - and encountering such violence goes into survival mode with the Fight/Flight/Freeze response. You innately/instinctivly went into Freeze mode = cooperating and considering the safety of younger family members also at gunpoint

You at 8 were also versus an unstable person pointing a gun at children - if you had freaked him out in any way by running or fighting, the gun could have gone off... I am sorry that you are struggling with self-doubt & fear again now with these recent situations and memories

Violence toward children in any way by family, friends, neighbours, strangers, peers etc is WRONG!

You are very caring and brave to be able to do all that you did

You are not alone...

Thank you notablackbarbie. The T. I see says I was brave too-- I'm trying to see it that way but it's difficult. You know, I've only ever heard-"flight or fight"... not "freeze" included. thanks for pointing that out-- I think it helps, including that makes me feel more normal.

I think I'm getting stuck with guilt. was punished and accused of so much that I didn't do when I was little....
I feel guilty for everything that goes wrong....

thanks again

I so appreciate your kindness.

fins