so i've asked for a divorce. my husband says he wants to try a separation. i don't see the point. i think it will just prolong things and make matters worse. if we are separated i would want him to go and date so that he might separate better from me. i care for him but i have spent 8 years acting more like a mother than a wife and i cannot do it forever. there are times i think a separation might work, but it makes me less sure of the divorce. when i had someone i wanted to be with after the divorce it was easier. now that i realize he is just as emotionally unavailable as my soontobe ex husband. it makes it harder to jump out into the world alone.