Hi dance59326,
I hear you.
I'm sorry things feel so hard right now...

I was wondering, have you had a chance to see a therapist or councelor? This has really helped me... so I always want to pass it on...
Just know that you are the best - because you are the best you there is.
About gender...
... Do you feel you were handed the wrong gender? Or do you feel confused about gender issues in general?
E