Hello Celtic,

Welcome to pc. Your relationship sounds complicated but not unusual. Church has a terrible habit of changing people and brainwashing them into believing only the words of the bible and only that particular churches interpretation of those words.

The southern baptists are very particular that god doesn't want you to be married to someone who isn't a southern baptist. Your wifes words "If thats what you want then you do it" is very typical of someone who is manipulating and controlling. Trying to get you to leave so that none of it is her fault. But that is a common scenario in most marriages that are in trouble.

To be fair however you need to acknowledge that you may well have changed towards her because you resent the church and its influence over her and her new attitude. She does have the right to choose for herself what and how things influence her, and she may see something in you that was not there before she started attending church and feeling safe or secure.

Anger will not solve or fix the problems you have personally. All that can happen there is a spiraling down into more anger. Remember that what fuels you feeds you and what feeds you strengthens its hold on you.

Maybe you could see your GP and ask him for help by getting a referral to a psych and maybe some medication to help you to balance out and help you to see things a little clearer? I don't know what you prefer in that situation so I'm only offering possibilities which may have a positive impact. Medication isn't for everyone and I don't suggest it is at all, but there seems to be an underlying issue for you which needs dealing with.

I really wish you the best and hope that things are resolved for you both.