who confessed to me in the second week that he was a recovering "functioning" heroin addict. I was crushed to say the least. ummm why were you crushed when you found this out? but his sponsor says he should not be in a relationship while he's trying to get his act together. Is this true? yes it's usually recommended in early sobriety so the person can focus on their previous addiction behaviors/damage and areas of their life they need to change. it has no reflection on you. it's just helpful to the person not to be diverted from getting better. also sometimes a relationship will falter and the recovering person is not able to cope as well. this can lead to a relapse of past behaviors-using. i admire him for taking directiom from his sponsor, his new life may depend on it. He said it once before but he called me and told me he loved me and he didn't want to stop seeing me. Well this time if he weakens, I will refuse to see him. I'm not doing him or myself any good. I've been nothing but giving and kind to this man and I've always encouraged him to see his kids (even went home because he said he was missing a game of his daughter's) so I said, go! (yes, I'm a giver) and he made me feel like I was the only girl in the world (great song btw).well if your intentions are to help him follow direction from his sponsor then i admire what you are willing to do so he can get better.

I feel like I need to protect him, no one in my family knows of his addiction. If I were to tell them then it would be another unnecessary hurdle that he would have to climb over. Anyway, I'm treating this like it's over, because I've been hurt by him twice already. how so? Not sure if he's telling me the truth or not, but I believe he is, but I'm still going to give it a month out of respect for him ~ not sure how long it will take for him to get his stuff together, certainly more than a month... and then I hope I can start back in the dating pool.

Now I ask any man out there to please do not go onto a dating site UNTIL you are able to become emotionally involved with another. You'll save women a lot of heartache.