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Originally Posted by AAAAA
I am truly sorry that your daughter is learning so early about the dark side of human nature at such an early age, but there is something bothering me here.
May I ask how you are dealing with the fact that your daughter went into this girl's backpack without permission? In this case the girl did take her property, but what if she had not? Did she only look in this specific girl's backpack or did she look through others? Did she suspect this girl of being the thief?
In my opinion the end does not justify the means. It would indeed be very rare that a good friend of your daughter's would have purchased the same wallet without mentioning it to her, but what if she had and the teacher had walked in while your daughter was in someone else's backpack with their wallet in her hand? It is very possible she would have been labled the thief.
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I respect you for making this point AAAAA. I think my daughter was starting to suspect this friend after the eye liner mystery. The girls school bag isn't like a regular zippered backpack - it's one of those square bags similar to a re-usable shopping bag. When my daughter went in the class to get something, someone must have knocked her bag, because the wallet was clearly visible. So yes she took a chance and opened it, to see it was hers - it was right in front of her. The girl violated my daughters property by taking it.
The girl tried to use this as a defense - you went in my private property - but my daughter said "I retrieved 'my private' property that you had in your possession, that was visible to my eye". Normally my daughter wouldn't go through backpacks but it was gnawing at her, how her things were disappearing.
Even after my daughter confronted her, she bold faced tried to say she didn't do anything wrong. If my daughter told her, I think you have my wallet in your back pack, I know she would never in a million years admit it. Thieves don't follow rules and sometimes we have to fight fire with fire. She treats people fairly but if they don't treat her fairly, the gloves are off - that's the way society is now. If she didn't do that, she never would have got it back.